How to cope with the unexpected

 

 Life won't always be smooth and easy, you will encounter challenges along the way that will stress you out and lower your mood.

Think back to your unexpected situation and how you handled it. Can you recall it? What was it? How have you handled it?

Thinking of your last unexpected situation helps to reflect on the past so that you may identify the instances in which you could have handled the next unexpected situation better.

Even though dealing with the unexpected or something we haven't planned for is typical, these circumstances might make us feel powerless.

In life nothing is guaranteed, even death and taxes have their share of unexpected outcomes.

You might, for instance, shatter a dish or spill a drink. These unexpected occurrences can occasionally be minor and seem innocuous. But after a challenging day, these missteps can end up making a tough journey.

Therefore, we need to develop our resilience and work to make the best of potentially difficult circumstances.

And as we know, "every cloud has a silver lining".

I will try to give you some tips which helped me coping with the unexpected, but let me tell you something first; It takes time. Don't expect to move on with the unexpected in a blink of an eye. You will fail at the fist attempt, and the second and even maybe the third, but it doesn't matter. What matters is you are not afraid of improving from yourself. That's why the first step is:

Accept that life is full of unexpected events:

 Accept the fact that unexpected things will happen; They don't necessarily spell the end of the world. Unfortunately, no one of us is immune to the chaos of unexpected change.

Everyone finds change challenging; maintaining a habit is in our nature.

Sometimes, you may be able to control some of these surprising situations. While other times, you won't have such luck.

Stay calm:

 The first thing you should strive to do when a sudden circumstance happens is to maintain your composure.

I know it's easier said than done. You may not be able to handle this issue effectively if you panic and feel overwhelmed. You might make choices that ultimately worsen the issue.

Breathing is one of the best strategies to support your own calming. This may seem quite straightforward, but by taking a moment to pause and breathe deeply, you will tell your body to stop releasing stress hormones, which are responsible for feeling like panic, fear, and worry.

Once you have cleared your thoughts, you may return to the issue and concentrate on how to respond in that situation without being distracted by your feelings.

Act, don't React:

Gut feelings are difficult to change. It takes a lot of patience to develop self-control, both with oneself and external stimuli. Thinking things through before acting on your impulses can have a big impact on how things turn out. 

Imagine being involved in a minor car crash. Even though the damages aren't severe, your day has been already altered, and now you have to spend weeks dealing with mechanics and insurances. Your first instinct maybe to become angry and yell. Nothing in this response helps the circumstances. In fact, responding in such a way might make the situation consume even more time and effort. You should take a time to gather your thoughts and then speak to the situation.

Keep a positive attitude:

Life will likely be challenging at times, and things won't always go your way, but that doesn't mean you have to focus on the negatives. Keep an optimistic attitude.

There will be times when things happen that are so devastating to our emotion stability that it may seem impossible to remember there are good things in life. It helps to recall cheerful, upbeat moments in life when circumstances are genuinely severe and overwhelm you at every turn.

Try to recall the aspect of your life you love if you notice your emotions are getting out of control.

Constantly keep in mind that good is still exist in the world. You will feel more at ease and in charge of your life as a result.

Final words

It's crucial to keep in mind that not all unexpected events are harmful. Sometimes there is a silver lining, even if it can be difficult to see at first. You just have to be willing to look for it.

Therefore, try not to avoid focusing on the negativity and keep in mind not to respond. Simply take a deep breath and look for the good in every circumstance.

All love and support